Possible womxn 3/12 Gabby – labeled too thin her whole life
This is Gabby. Gabby has been labeled too thin her entire life and when I say entire life, I mean entire life. Within two weeks after her session she had with me for this project she posted one of her photos with the following words…
‘Today before lunch a customer brought us pizzas, the guys in my shop offered me some and I politely declined. “No thank you, I brought a huuuge lunch!” Which I did. But that’s beside the point.Immediately 4-5 adult males launched in to this bizarre yelling charade of comments like “No pizza for her! She will gain an ounce! Can’t let that happen! Atkins won’t allow it! Gotta stick to my tiny people diet!” I admittedly didn’t hear the rest, because I walked straight out the back door of the shop to compose myself. What kind of world do we live in that things like this are appropriate? @kendrakboudoir and I talked a lot about this during my impossible boudoir shoot. I’m not sure I’ll ever get used to how comfortable people are with commenting on other people’s body size. But I do appreciate @kendrakboudoir drive to get women to love and celebrate themselves more through her project. It sure is tough sometimes!”
Can you believe it? I can. We live in a disgusting world where womxn are sex symbols are men are supposed to be Jason Moma. There is too much pressure to look a certain way for ALL body types. This is the exact reason why I started this project in the first place. We need to get to a point in time where the only comments we remark to others in person and to ourselves is nothing but kind and positive. More of, “Girl look at you! You look good!” Or “Hey boy hey, you look fire today.” But when it comes to womxn’s bodies, we need to seriously shut this shit down.
We need to completely remove hurtful words and derogatory phrases from our vocabulary. Here are just a few things that Gabby has heard about her body her entire life… “You’re not 100 lbs soaking wet, you’re built like a 12 year old boy, why don’t you go eat something, you’re so tiny, look at that little saltine.” Those were and are the comments Gabby has gotten on her body growing up and even to this day. Like that comment that stemmed from not wanting a slice of fucking pizza above.
“I’ve been in my underwear in front of plenty of womxn, but usually I’m the one telling them what to do.” -Gabby
I asked Gabby what part of her body she was most insecure about. She told her her upper body mostly and then referred to herself as Lanky Kong.
“I’m not muscular but I’m not petite, I just feel oblong and awkward. My arms are too long and my shoulders are goofy and contorted. I always wear long sleeves and sweatshirts to kind of hide.” -Gabby
“I was literally the only one!”-Gabby
When Gabby told me about coming out in high school and not knowing of any other lesbians at the time.
“I can consume 4 or 5 Big Mac’s and a plate of brownies!” “It doesn’t matter what I eat, I haven’t been able to put on weight my entire life.” -Gabby
“Comments about my body are always derogatory in the sense that I am so small.” -Gabby
It didn’t matter what Gabby did when she was younger, she could eat, eat, eat and still not gain a pound.
We talked about how people feel it’s okay to call someone small. People never go up to someone who is larger and outright call them fat. I mean some might because we live in a world full of assholes. But when Gabby hears, “you’re so tiny” all she want’s to say is “you’re so fucking rude.” But she can’t because she’s a decent human being who knows how to take the high road. Little do these people know that while they’re calling her so skinny and small, Gabby is trying to consume 6,000 calories just before breakfast to maintain her weight.
“People think they are paying compliments when they say, “you’re so small.” Thats not a compliment.” “Hey nice legs,” or “you have a good butt” or “sweet tats!” Thats a compliment. You’re so tiny is not a compliment.” -Gabby
Working in a male dominated industry most her life, Gabby has had her fair share of unsolicited comments happen towards her. Working on ship decks and tour boats for the past 5 years, she says she is constantly surrounded by an older male generation who she says they feel they have the right to comment about her body working in a labor intense field.
“I remember distinctly deck-handing for a boat, leaning over taking off a line and the captain, three stories above me, leaned down and was like “do you want some help with that line little lady?” -Gabby
“They think that they are “complimenting” me on the fact that I am small and I might need their help.” -Gabby
The male ego, strikes again.