Possible womxn 9/12 Val – Big Breast’s, like very large ladies
If I had a book full of 300 empty pages I probably could easily fill it with how much I love and adore Val. Not only has she been a huge (pun not but kind of intended) part of this project, she has also become such a dear friend of mine. After traveling to Burning Man and back this past month with her, I feel so lucky to of had this soul enter into my life to share some incredible experiences with. She is a fearless, strong, funny, hardworking bold sun goddess and I kind of like to think that her large breasts sort of symbolize her in a way, larger than life. Her ego is so beautiful and she just radiates love and light every time I see her. Val has never let things in her life hold her back, not even having very large breasts. So many times she has thought of getting a breast reduction and taking away all the physical pain and unwanted attention, but then she remembers that she was made fiercely and if god or her mama or whoever blessed her with a chest, she was going to accept it and not change herself one damn bit which she has chosen to do. Learning to love to your body will always be a journey and learning to accept some things that you can’t change is all apart of that journey. I love this womxn and what she stands for and am so honored to share her story with you all!
“This session was just another thing along my path helping to push me outside of my comfort zone which is what I need.” – Val
Like many of the ladies for this project or who do boudoir in general, Val had mentioned she was incredibly nervous before the session. She had also ordered a few props that had yet to make it to her apartment which kind of set her back a little on what she was planning to wear. All that fear and worry about her outfits and the packages not coming in made her realize that she needed to just let go of her expectation of what she thought this session was going to be and to just let it happen because thats how you’re going to get the best experience, if you just let go. So she showed up, with still more props then I’ve seen anyone ever bring and just let the entire experience happen to her.
“The quickest growth comes from getting out of your comfort zone.” – Val
“I knew I had boobs but I didn’t really notice, notice until freshman year because I was wearing a button down shirt and some guy made a comment to me and that was the first time that had happened.” – Val
From the moment Val entered high school, Val was not just Val anymore but was Val who has large breasts. From comments she would get from grown men as she walked home from school, or to comments her peers would say directly to her, everyone else had something to say about Val’s body from the moment she turned 14. Val quickly learned to tune out the comments and cat calling from men that she was getting constantly, or the weird remarks her male friends would say to her at school. But what got on Val’s nerves the most were not the comments from the boys, but the comments from the girls. Once high school hit all she would hear from her female friends were comments like, “Damn girl, why don’t you share with us.” or “I wish I had your boobs!” or “How did you get so lucky”. Little did they know that if Val could of ripped them off her chest and handed them over, she would.
What is more annoying than the comments from all genders about Val’s breasts is the fact that she can not fit or wear anything that she wants.
“Oh spaghetti straps? Not happening. Tube tops? Nope, can’t do it because it’ll look weird with my bra showing.” – Val
Even if she could find a spaghetti strap and that is more like a lasagna strap or a tube top that somehow didn’t show her bra or even came with a built in bra, she wouldn’t wear it anyways because it would just attract even more attention to her. Even if her perfect fit was out there, she still wouldn’t be able to wear it.
“All those people were forcing their comments on me and then forcing other people around them to notice me so everyone had a say about my body.” -Val
When others have a say about your body, that’s when something is wrong. It doesn’t matter if the comment you think your saying is good, or the comment is bad, the comments just have to stop. For someone like Val, her entire young adult life she was subjected to what other people thought about her body. She was taught unconsciously by others to shrink herself, to not be seen, to not be 100% Val because that was too much. Other people defined how she felt about herself and her body and there was nothing she could do about it at the time. She didn’t have to tools she has today to combat those comments and to look inward and know that she is beautiful and perfect just the way she is. She was stuck in her own head filled with words from other people.
Val always being subjected to comments about herself and her appearance never really ends. She thinks back on a time when she was a child in elementary school and was told from the teacher that she was ‘too much’ and is convinced that is where her introversion stems from. Apparently Val was telling some kids around her a story and the teacher silenced her telling her to be quiet and stated that no one cared and that she was just too much. Hearing the words ‘too much’ is something Val is has been told a time or two. She has always thought that she was too much because other kept telling her she was. If her personality wasn’t too much, her boobs were, or her butt was or her hair was.
“That was the constant message I got so I tried to hide and not be seen because I wanted to just live my life and not have to deal constantly with comments from others.” -Val
“I wanted to be fucking normal and I feel like that was taken away from me.” -Val
Val hid and shrank herself for so many years and was always the center of attention, something she never asked for. Not only was she commented on her physical appearance constantly, she was also always being told that she was too much. After leaving her boyfriend of two years who had made a similar comment to her, Val decided to do some major, major healing and leave a past she once knew and leave those people who thought she was just too much. She introduced reiki, meditation, crystals and tarot to her life that things started to change. Instead of hiding and being afraid of what other would say, she grew into herself more and left the old, afraid and closed off Val behind. No matter what people still will or might say to her inevitably, she will be ready for it because she is vibrating at a higher frequency than she was before and she knows now that she can let all those silly little comments roll right off her boobs… I mean back. 😉
“I used to want surgery but after finding things in my life like reiki and meditation I have come to accept myself more and things have gotten a lot better for me.”- Val
I asked her if large ta ta’s ran in the family and she replied almost instantly, “NOPE! It’s just me girl!”-Val
When it comes to bras, Val is always at a loss. Growing up her mother would always get so frustrated because she wanted to help her daughter so much but didn’t know what to do when nothing fit. She would say to her, “well something has to fit you.” Val would always have to buy the largest cup size and just work around it. A lot of the time things were misshapen or too loose or too tight. I asked Val if she ever wore sports bras to make things easier to which she replied, hell no. Sports bras still didn’t fit her any better than a bra did, but she didn’t want her boobs to be any higher or perk out any more than they already did. For the folks that understand bra sizing, Val is 34 and probably some sort of ‘Z’ cup. Almost an impossible size to flippin be. Val is not the tallest of people so her body frame is relatively small. When you have a small body frame and very large breasts, sizing just does not exist for you. Anyone who has a crazy large cup size could never ever be a 34 (or so they say) so bra’s that size are just not ever made.
Bra’s not only don’t fit Val properly but almost every single one she wears hurts always. They pull on her shoulders and tug on her sides and create darker spots on her skin because of the friction it causes against her body. It hurts all the time even when she’s trying to do normal things like lean down or work out. Years of having to wears bras for the support have caused her skin to also have slight indentation in places.
“It’s hurts and it’s not fun at all.” -Val
It can be bras, sport bra’s, blouses or swimsuits, nothing fit’s this girl. Breast reductions still can cross her mind from time to time, but she still refuses to go through with it. She wants to become a mother one day and knows that her all natural breasts might give her a higher chance at being able to breast feed some day. *The things we womxn honestly have to think of* If I’m worried about anything, it’s trying to become a mother before it may be too late. Why do ladies have to think so far ahead sometimes… Gah!
I asked Val what part of her body she is most proud of and she said her hour glass shape to which I think I responded with some snaps and my hands making that hour glass shape motion saying, ‘yassss’. The girl has got some curves and I actually had no idea how small her waist really was until she got practically naked in front of m